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To all those who don’t think the rape joke was a problem, or rape jokes are a problem.

I get it, you’re a decent guy. I can even believe it. You’ve never raped anybody. You would NEVER rape anybody. You’re upset that all these feminists are trying to accuse you of doing something or connect you to doing something that, as far as you’re concerned, you’ve never done and would never condone.

And they’ve told you about triggers, and PTSD, and how one in six women is a survivor, and you get it. You do. But you can’t let every time someone gets all upset get in the way of you having a good time, right?

So fine. If all those arguments aren’t going anything for you, let me tell you this. And I tell you this because I genuinely believe you mean it when you say you don’t want to hurt anybody, and you don’t see the harm, and that it’s important to you to do your best to be a decent and good person. And I genuinely believe you when you say you would never associate with a rapist and you think rape really is a very bad thing.

Because this is why I refuse to take rape jokes sitting down-

6% of college age men, slightly over 1 in 20, will admit to raping someone in anonymous surveys, as long as the word “rape” isn’t used in the description of the act.

6% of Penny Arcade’s target demographic will admit to actually being rapists when asked.

A lot of people accuse feminists of thinking that all men are rapists. That’s not true. But do you know who think all men are rapists?

Rapists do.

They really do. In psychological study, the profiling, the studies, it comes out again and again.

Virtually all rapists genuinely believe that all men rape, and other men just keep it hushed up better. And more, these people who really are rapists are constantly reaffirmed in their belief about the rest of mankind being rapists like them by things like rape jokes, that dismiss and normalize the idea of rape.

If one in twenty guys is a real and true rapist, and you have any amount of social activity with other guys like yourself, really cool guy, then it is almost a statistical certainty that one time hanging out with friends and their friends, playing Halo with a bunch of guys online, in a WoW guild, or elsewhere, you were talking to a rapist. Not your fault. You can’t tell a rapist apart any better than anyone else can. It’s not like they announce themselves.

But, here’s the thing. It’s very likely that in some of these interactions with these guys, at some point or another someone told a rape joke. You, decent guy that you are, understood that they didn’t mean it, and it was just a joke. And so you laughed.

And, decent guy who would never condone rape, who would step in and stop rape if he saw it, who understands that rape is awful and wrong and bad, when you laughed?

That rapist who was in the group with you, that rapist thought that you were on his side. That rapist knew that you were a rapist like him. And he felt validated, and he felt he was among his comrades.

You. The rapist’s comrade.

And if that doesn’t make you feel sick to your stomach, if that doesn’t make you want to throw up, if that doesn’t disturb you or bother you or make you feel like maybe you should at least consider not participating in that kind of humor anymore…

Well, maybe you aren’t as opposed to rapists as you claim.


Time-Machine (via a comment at shakesville.com)

Ughhhh, so important.

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Regardless of everything that has happened, I still love every member of my family immeasurably

— 5 days ago
"Dear future child
If it’s 3am and you find yourself in a world of complete despair
Please do not turn to strangers on the internet for solace as I did
Please climb onto my bed
And I will hold you until the demons sleep
If it is Thursday morning and you are too sad to move
I won’t force you
I will buy ice cream and we will watch your favourite tv show and I will remind you of your importance
If you feel as if you have no purpose
I will remind you that you were created entirely with love and every pain you feel, I feel too
When you’re sure you can’t go on anymore
I will tell you that when I was 21 I searched for peace at the bottom of a vodka bottle chased by a bottle of pain killers
But that five years later
When you were placed in my arms in the delivery room
I realised that you were why I had been holding on
Without realising it, you saved me, do you know how amazing that is?
So if you ever feel like grabbing that vodka bottle, put it down, we will get in the car and I will drive until the sky turns magenta
I will show you how the sun rises every morning to encourage you to rise too
Sweetheart I refuse to be unaware of your sufferings
As my mother was to mine."
Your mental health is my priority. (via be-fearless-brave-and-kind)

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who wants to hire me as their maid i’m not gonna clean im just gonna wear a cute maid outfit dust like 6 things and bend down a lot

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Not doing very well today.

— 6 days ago
Anonymous asked: What are your beliefs on parents not giving children a choice in whether they eat meats or not?





I think it’s smart. If a child wants to eat glue, sure it might make the child happy but does the child really know what’s best for their health and well being just yet? No. Do the parents? Yes. It’s the parents being a good parent and knowing that the child’s uneducated wants and needs don’t come above their health. 

This is like telling your kids to go be an engineer because it’s what’s best for them. Maybe I want to be a meat-eating artist. Entire cultures subsist on what veganism isn’t. Saying it’s flat-out better and should be enforced onto children reaches the point where the very people you’re trying to convince are going to stop listening because it sounds psycho.

No, that free choice doesn’t put their health in danger. Eating animal products does. I will make the choice to feed my child what I want, and I will raise them in such a way they will see eating animal products for what it is: cruel and unnecessary. They will have the choice but they’ll just be raised in a way where they see the right choice is to be a vegan. Children are socialized to lose their compassion, and I won’t do that to my kids. And FYI you look super silly because if children had a “choice” in what they would eat they’d probably live off pop tarts and pizza pockets all day, and as a parent it would be highly irresponsible to let them make uneducated choices that directly affect their health and subsequently their quality of life. 

What sounds psycho is that We currently produce enough food to feed the world, but feed it to animals we later kill instead.  What’s psycho is people getting triple bypass surgery where doctors take a vein out of your thigh and open up your chest so they can sew the vein into your coronary artery instead of eating a vegan diet. What’s psycho is the environment is being cut down to house animals that are being produced to kill. What’s psycho is that people think their tastebuds are ever so important that they can take lives to satisfy them. What’s “psycho” is people thinking that their “personal choice” to eat meat only affects them, when the whole world is paying for it:

Veganism and the environment

Dairy plays a major role in creating climate change

So next time you’re about to reblog an ask of mine with an unwanted, ignorant opinion, don’t. 

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